Have you ever been in the middle of a conversation with your boyfriend or girlfriend but then the conversation starts to sound like:
“Okay”, “Yeah”, “What are you doing?”… and other boring close-ended questions like that?
I think we have all been there.
Keeping the conversation going is an important aspect of dating; there is the need for effective communication.
We all want to have deep and authentic conversations with our spouses, however, one of the hindrances to this is the lack of not knowing what to say.
I mean, you might ask yourself “What else have we not said?” “Hmmmn, what should we talk about today?” etc.
Coming up with what to talk about with your spouse might sometimes seem daunting, that is why we have come up with these conversation starters to help you to keep a conversation going:
What do you think about (insert a famous movie/music/book)?
This will help him open up and give his opinion about that work of literature or movie extensively. An idea would be to talk about a movie, music or book, basically, an area that you know they are interested in. They may like a particular author who happens to have recently released a new book which they just read, that is a very good starting point.
If they love to read, you can take it a notch up by asking their favourite author, you never know, you might want to surprise him/her with a good book from that author.
Are you a night person or a morning person?
This question will give you an insight about what time they are more productive. Knowing this can help you a lot in your relationship. This may not fall into the category of conversation starters but it definitely helps you know why the conversation may be a little awkward.
What is your most memorable childhood experience?
You need to know details about their childhood anyway, so this is a great topic, as it helps you have a better insight about where they are coming from. Also, you may discover a common ground. It could be that you both lived on the same street or have similar experiences.
What’s your favourite kind of car?
This one is for the guys! Have you noticed that most guys are fascinated with cars? You can ask him to talk about his favourite type of car. Ladies can also be very fascinated about cars.
Where would you like to go on a vacation?
This should get anyone excited or get them talking. We all have that one place we would travel to, at least I like to think that. Guess what? Having this as a part of the conversations helps you know where you may be traveling to sooner or later (they may need you as a travel companion).
What’s your opinion about (insert current news)?
This is also another way to learn about their views on important happenings in the nation. This can also help you understand their personality and likes.
What are you passionate about?
It is also important to know what they are passionate about, those things that make their eyes glitter and their body want to leap just by mentioning it.
What are your future plans?
Don’t tell me you don’t want to know what their future plans are! Remember, the essence of you dating is for a purpose. Ask about future plans.
Talk to me about your friends and family?
You can also use this opportunity to know more about their friends and family.
How was your day?
Take time to ask about their day, you would be very surprised about this leads to several other conversations.
Finally, you must understand that it is not enough to ask questions, you also need to talk about yourself. It’s a two-way thing. You need to be sure that they at the right place and it’s the right time for them to text or have a conversation with you.
In addition, you should be genuinely interested in what they say, in order for the conversation to keep going.
Don’t forget to make the questions as open-ended as possible to keep the conversations going.